Ask Him to Accessorize

If you're looking for a little excitement, it might be time to ask your partner to wear a little more jewelry — though not in the way he might be expecting. I'm talking about penis rings, which can take sex (and his erection) to new heights.

A penis ring offers benefits for both of you. It boosts his erection and increases sensation for better, more intense orgasms. In fact, the penis ring could be thought of as a more effective "penis pump." It'll give him that enhancement, without a prescription and for far less money! As for you, you'll get the benefits of longer-lasting and potentially more passionate sex.

A soft silicone model is best, since it's flexible and comfortable. All penis rings should be put on before your partner has an erection. The ring slips right down to the base of the penis (a little lubricant may help). Adjustable penis rings are a good idea, unless you've recently taken a tape measure to your man's member. Some models even have a tiny vibrator attached to the top to double your pleasure, too!

Keep in mind that a penis ring should not be worn for more than an hour or so once he's erect, and that any feelings of numbness or coldness are signs the ring should be removed.

So ask your man to wear your ring — you'll wonder why you waited so long to pop the question!

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Sex in the Shower

Having sex under the shower is a lot more than just a new way to have sex.  Shower sex is intimate and can help both of you feel closer and bond better.  When you’re under the shower with your partner, you don’t always have to think of sex.

Both of you can lather each other up with a loofah and spend a while talking and relaxing after a long day at work.  As turning on as having sex under the shower can be, it also creates an emotional connection between you and your partner.

Now and then, both of you may not be keen to have sex after a tiring day. At times like these, getting under the shower can be the best thing to rejuvenate yourselves and feel grateful for having each other.

So are you ready to have a wild time under the shower and feel connected at the same time?

 5 things to do in the shower

#1 Lather up. Don’t think of sex just yet. Get under the hot shower with your lover and lather each other up with soap, shampoo or even a slippery conditioner up to the neck. Just hug each other and relax in each other’s arms as both of you use a loofah on each other’s backs.

#2 Give each other an oral. Even if you’re not too comfortable with giving an oral to your partner at the end of a hard day, don’t worry about it when both of you are under the shower. Running water always makes things feel moist, supple and fresh. And the best part, it won’t be a one sided pleasurable activity anymore!

#3 Clean each other up. Lather up and run your hands over each other, paying more attention to those special regions. Before long, all the scrubbing and fingering will arouse both of you. Additionally, you could also use a hand shower or stand under running water and stimulate each other sexually.

#4 Share enough shower time. Don’t hog the shower just because the water feels so warm and relaxing. Stand under the showerhead and make sure both of you get enough time under running water. Get this wrong and one person will end up feeling more cold and uncomfortable than the other.

#5 Foreplay in the shower. Watch yourselves in front of the mirror while fondling each other, with or without lather. Watching yourselves naked will always turn both of you on. It’s like watching a sexy couple make out in front of you and making out in front of another sexy couple at the same time. Who wouldn’t get turned on by that? Kiss each other under the shower as the water runs along your faces. The kisses will be wet, passionate and sexy.

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Stay Sexy!

Sex without Having Sex

There are times in life that something happens when you can't have sex with your partner. Pregnancy, postpartum, injury, or even when you have your period ... if you aren't into sex when Aunt Flo is around.

That's when you have to get creative. You can have sex without technically having the traditional definition of sex.

And dare I say it's sometimes even better than sex!

Why?

Because you are still engaged, still connected, still doing something passionate together. Sometimes penetration is overrated. And sometimes having sex without having sex is a kinky way to switch things up a bit in your love den. Here are five ways to do it ....

1. Masturbate together. If one of you cannot do the deed, the other one can still take matters into their own hands while the other is watching. If you can both masturbate together, then go for it! Have you ever seen your partner reach orgasm while you were just an innocent onlooker? It's hot. I highly suggest you try it sometime. One time, he can do it. Then the next time, you can. 

2. Have oral sex. Oral isn't just the appetizer to sex -- it can be the whole meal. And I don't know about you, but I love when my man takes his time downtown. Like double-digit minutes kind of time. And if you didn't get the male memo already, he likes you to spend some time down there. It doesn't matter who is getting or giving oral, what matters is that it is done with that ravenous lust you had when you first started getting it on.

3. Let your hands and mouth roam. Kissing too often falls victim in long-term relationships. Pop a mint, make it fresh, and make out. Kiss his neck, lick his nipples, nibble on his ear, squeeze his butt -- pretend it's prom night and you had a pact not to do it in the limo but you still had to steam up the windows.

4. Watch a sexy movie together. If you can't do it, the next best thing is watching other people doing it. It will still get your loins hot and your partner will be right there next to you, getting all hot and bothered, too. Take mental notes and reenact the scene when sex gets the green light.

5. Write down a fantasy and read to each other. Words can be an aphrodisiac ... especially words written by your mate. Especially carefully chosen words that describe sexual acts they want to do with you. Explore your kinky side, even if the naughtiness will only be a fantasy. It's always hot to hear and express those dirty desires. 

Have you tried any of these? How do you have sex without having sex?

5 more reasons to have sex tonight

1. It prevents cancer.
For guys, anyway, there's iron-clad evidence that regular sex (with someone they love or just by themselves) lowers the risk of certain cancers. According to a 2003 Australian study, twenty-something guys who ejaculated five or more times a week cut their risk for getting prostate cancer later in life by a third. (This is where the Super Stretch comes in handy) Another study in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that for every three ejaculations a man had during the week, his prostate cancer risk dropped up to 19%.

2. Sex improves immunity.
Don't skip your H1N1 vaccine for a lost afternoon in bed, but research suggests some - but not too much - sexual activity may help boost immune function. In a small 1999 study of 112 students at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania, those who had sex once or twice a week had 30% more infection-fighting immunoglobulin A (IgA) in their saliva than students who made love less frequently.

3. Sex helps you sleep.
Ever gone wild with your man only to have him roll over and snore afterward? It's because of a potent combo of strenuous exertion and feel-good brain chemicals, like oxytocin and endorphins, released during orgasm. You relax, get calmer, disconnect from the worries of the day and it makes it easier to drift off.

4. Sex can make you happier.
If just touching and hugging gets oxytocin flowing to your brain, orgasm makes it surge. That's like being hooked up to happy drugs and explains why having sex can put us in a great mood and even guard against depression. Oxytocin, knows as the "bonding hormone," makes moms fall in love with their newborns. It also makes us feel more connected to the person we're making love to.

5. It improves fertility.
But not in the way you might think. Having frequent sex regulates menstrual cycles, which makes conception easier. Plus, having an orgasm, especially after your partner finishes, may even boost the odds of getting knocked up.

5 Reasons to have sex right now!

1. Sex makes menopause easier to handle.
Menopause is the time when a woman's sexual appetite dries up with her estrogen, right? Not really: The "use it or lose it" credo is established. "Regular penetration with lubricant, 2-3 times a week by anything - including a vibrator or fingers - fights vaginal atrophy and improves the flexibility and thickness of the skin inside the vagina," she says. Other research suggests that regular sex may reduce hot flashes.

2. Sex relieves pain.
This one's proven too, especially when orgasm is involved. A climax releases endorphins, natural pain-relievers that can blunt all kinds of pain from menstrual cramps and arthritis to whiplash, back pain, even labor contractions and migraines. And it's not a distracter or anesthetic. "It's an analgesic," she says, and even better than Motrin. Unfortunately, relief is short-lived - 10 minutes at best. Which is the perfect excuse to lure your mate back for another round

3. You'll live longer.
Sex may help you live longer, but what's interesting is how: For women, quality counts; for men, it's all about quantity.

In one of the best-known studies on sex and longevity, involving nearly 1,000 middle-aged British gents, those who had at least two orgasms a week had half the mortality risk of those who reported just one a month. And a Swedish study found that men past their 75th birthdays were the ones who stayed sexually active; those who died before 75 had holstered their pistol long before.

For women, frequency has no bearing on longevity - the sex has to be good. In one 25-year-long North Carolina study published in 1982, women who said they enjoyed sex lived longer. The findings suggest that it's orgasm, not just sex, that's important for women's health.

4. It's good for your heart.
Sex helps men and women cope with stress by lowering blood pressure, a notion that's solidly backed by research. Even simple caresses are known to slow women's heart rates and reduce the stress hormone cortisol in anxious situations.

In a recent study, women who got a neck and shoulder massage from their husbands or boyfriends before encountering a stressful situation had lower heart rates and cortisol levels than women who just talked with their partners or had no contact at all. Ellen Barnard says, "We know that improving your mood and reducing stress lead to healthier cardiovascular status, and we know those things come from sexual experiences, for that reason, sex is good for your heart."

5. It counts as exercise (sort of).
Having sex - even lots of it - is unlikely to get you in shape for a triathalon, especially if your partner is driving most of the action. But it's no slouch either. The energy spent in sex is said to equal walking several flights of stairs or washing windows.