Both of you can lather each other up with a loofah and spend a while talking and relaxing after a long day at work.  As turning on as having sex under the shower can be, it also creates an emotional connection between you and your partner.

Now and then, both of you may not be keen to have sex after a tiring day. At times like these, getting under the shower can be the best thing to rejuvenate yourselves and feel grateful for having each other.

So are you ready to have a wild time under the shower and feel connected at the same time?

 5 things to do in the shower

#1 Lather up. Don’t think of sex just yet. Get under the hot shower with your lover and lather each other up with soap, shampoo or even a slippery conditioner up to the neck. Just hug each other and relax in each other’s arms as both of you use a loofah on each other’s backs.

#2 Give each other an oral. Even if you’re not too comfortable with giving an oral to your partner at the end of a hard day, don’t worry about it when both of you are under the shower. Running water always makes things feel moist, supple and fresh. And the best part, it won’t be a one sided pleasurable activity anymore!

#3 Clean each other up. Lather up and run your hands over each other, paying more attention to those special regions. Before long, all the scrubbing and fingering will arouse both of you. Additionally, you could also use a hand shower or stand under running water and stimulate each other sexually.

#4 Share enough shower time. Don’t hog the shower just because the water feels so warm and relaxing. Stand under the showerhead and make sure both of you get enough time under running water. Get this wrong and one person will end up feeling more cold and uncomfortable than the other.

#5 Foreplay in the shower. Watch yourselves in front of the mirror while fondling each other, with or without lather. Watching yourselves naked will always turn both of you on. It’s like watching a sexy couple make out in front of you and making out in front of another sexy couple at the same time. Who wouldn’t get turned on by that? Kiss each other under the shower as the water runs along your faces. The kisses will be wet, passionate and sexy.

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That's when you have to get creative. You can have sex without technically having the traditional definition of sex.

And dare I say it's sometimes even better than sex!

Why?

Because you are still engaged, still connected, still doing something passionate together. Sometimes penetration is overrated. And sometimes having sex without having sex is a kinky way to switch things up a bit in your love den. Here are five ways to do it ....

1. Masturbate together. If one of you cannot do the deed, the other one can still take matters into their own hands while the other is watching. If you can both masturbate together, then go for it! Have you ever seen your partner reach orgasm while you were just an innocent onlooker? It's hot. I highly suggest you try it sometime. One time, he can do it. Then the next time, you can. 

2. Have oral sex. Oral isn't just the appetizer to sex -- it can be the whole meal. And I don't know about you, but I love when my man takes his time downtown. Like double-digit minutes kind of time. And if you didn't get the male memo already, he likes you to spend some time down there. It doesn't matter who is getting or giving oral, what matters is that it is done with that ravenous lust you had when you first started getting it on.

3. Let your hands and mouth roam. Kissing too often falls victim in long-term relationships. Pop a mint, make it fresh, and make out. Kiss his neck, lick his nipples, nibble on his ear, squeeze his butt -- pretend it's prom night and you had a pact not to do it in the limo but you still had to steam up the windows.

4. Watch a sexy movie together. If you can't do it, the next best thing is watching other people doing it. It will still get your loins hot and your partner will be right there next to you, getting all hot and bothered, too. Take mental notes and reenact the scene when sex gets the green light.

5. Write down a fantasy and read to each other. Words can be an aphrodisiac ... especially words written by your mate. Especially carefully chosen words that describe sexual acts they want to do with you. Explore your kinky side, even if the naughtiness will only be a fantasy. It's always hot to hear and express those dirty desires. 

Have you tried any of these? How do you have sex without having sex?

1. It prevents cancer.
For guys, anyway, there's iron-clad evidence that regular sex (with someone they love or just by themselves) lowers the risk of certain cancers. According to a 2003 Australian study, twenty-something guys who ejaculated five or more times a week cut their risk for getting prostate cancer later in life by a third. (This is where the Super Stretch comes in handy) Another study in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that for every three ejaculations a man had during the week, his prostate cancer risk dropped up to 19%.

2. Sex improves immunity.
Don't skip your H1N1 vaccine for a lost afternoon in bed, but research suggests some - but not too much - sexual activity may help boost immune function. In a small 1999 study of 112 students at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania, those who had sex once or twice a week had 30% more infection-fighting immunoglobulin A (IgA) in their saliva than students who made love less frequently.

3. Sex helps you sleep.
Ever gone wild with your man only to have him roll over and snore afterward? It's because of a potent combo of strenuous exertion and feel-good brain chemicals, like oxytocin and endorphins, released during orgasm. You relax, get calmer, disconnect from the worries of the day and it makes it easier to drift off.

4. Sex can make you happier.
If just touching and hugging gets oxytocin flowing to your brain, orgasm makes it surge. That's like being hooked up to happy drugs and explains why having sex can put us in a great mood and even guard against depression. Oxytocin, knows as the "bonding hormone," makes moms fall in love with their newborns. It also makes us feel more connected to the person we're making love to.

5. It improves fertility.
But not in the way you might think. Having frequent sex regulates menstrual cycles, which makes conception easier. Plus, having an orgasm, especially after your partner finishes, may even boost the odds of getting knocked up.

Make lists of reasons why you love yourself…

Its important to remember the most important person in your life is you! You are unique, special and cool so celebrate that everyday.

Reach out to others…

People love to hear from you. Connecting with others helps us stay present within ourselves. It also makes you feel better to connect with people.

Think of a way you could make your life easier — then do it.

Time management, family management, work management. Just MANAGE it! The worse thing you can do for yourself is not give yourself enough time in life. You need it to reflect on you and how you can improve yourself

Really listen to people when they are speaking.

Look at them, make eye contact & be present. They’ll feel good that you care enough to properly engage them, & you’ll feel great in return.

Know that you are good enough ALL THE TIME.

Nuff said.

Explore your sexuality.

If you don’t know a lot about what makes you tick, decide that it’s time to FIND OUT! Then, once you know, COMMUNICATE IT! Don’t be afraid to tell your lover what you really want, what you wish they’d do or make suggestions. 

Express love in as many ways as you can.

Tell your friends you ADORE them, say thank you & mean it, flash your biggest & most sincere smile at strangers on the street, hug people for longer than normal.

2. Find some common ground. Find things that you and your favorite love person like to do together. It helps to make that bond even stronger. Go to a concert or a show. Go to a baseball game or an ice hockey game. Check out NASCAR. Do you like movies, playing video games, attending wine tastings or Country and Western line dancing? Do it! It's all about having fun together.

3. Smell like clean laundry and soap. Okay, this one may sound hokey, but guess what? While some men and women like the smell of perfumes and colognes, some do not care for it, and some are actually allergic to it. Now, if your dude or dudette likes a particular aroma, by all means, go for it. When I say that, I mean, don't overdose in it, but lightly apply it - just to leave a lingering trail. However, not to knock the scent industry, you understand, but just as a gentle hint, almost everyone just loves the smell of clean. It is indescribably sexy.

4. Find one food  dish that you can cook or make really well. This dish is the thing that you make that all your friends rave about and they constantly ask you for the recipe, too. The way to a man's (and woman's) heart , as they say, is through the stomach , and it's true. If you are truly a rotten cook or loathe the idea of being in the kitchen, then call the caterer and order some of your lover's absolutely favorite foods. However, if your lady or gentleman friend likes to cook, ask her or him to join you in la cucina, to celebrate in all your culinary splendor. (You may not even make it to dessert, by the way!)

5. Listen. This may be one of the most important things you'll ever do to make your special paramour particularly entranced by you. The reason is that the more you seem to be interested in what he or she has to say, (and the less you say, at times) the more he or she will think that you are without a doubt, the most brilliant conversationalist of the ages. This is a complete and utter turn on for almost everyone.

6. Compliments. Compliments. Compliments. Remember how your mother  always said that it is just as easy to find something nice to say as something, well, not so nice? Well, in this case, Mom  was right! Whether you want to compliment your darling about eyes, clothing, haircut, getting cast on a reality TV show or even getting over a fear or flying, say it.

Stay Sexy!

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Some things do not age well but thank goodness sex does.  As we grow older our need for sex does not change, but how we approach it is the changing factor.  People at any age can have a healthy sex life.  There are a few things you want to do to ensure this is a great time for you and your partner.

1.    Slow things down a notch. It may take you and your partner a little longer to become aroused than it used to. Make more time for intimacy and be prepared to approach sex differently. What once turned you and your partner on may not have the same effect anymore. Just spending time touching is a great warm-up.

2.    Chat about your body’s changes. Whether you need to open up about your changing needs to a lifelong partner or get to know a new one, communication is key. For particularly difficult conversations, such as those related to taking medication for erectile dysfunction or addressing a need to overcome low libido, picking a time when you feel close and relaxed, but not when sex is imminent. Being honest about what’s going on and what you hope will be going on.

3.    Experiment with new positions and toys. Spicy solutions to sex problems are guaranteed to be interesting topics of conversation. Just as you may need more time to become aroused, you might also want to try something new. Using sex toys and practical aids, such as lubricants, can up the wow factor.

4.    Stay healthy. Your body may be changing, but you can improve how it works and feels by making healthy diet and exercise choices. These choices, in turn, can lead to better sex by maintaining muscle strength and aerobic capacity.

With the right attitude and an open mind, sex will stay exhilarating and spicy indeed.

Whether we realize it consciously or not, we all have notions about sex that we believe implicitly — though we don’t know definitively whether these assumptions have a basis in fact. For instance, a common assumption is that men want to have sex more than women. Now, while this may be true for some men and some women, a woman’s sex drive can be just as strong as a man’s. Take a look at these other common sexual preconceptions and see which ones you subscribe to. Then find out whether each is, in fact, the truth — or a myth!

1.  A woman’s sexual performance peaks in her forties, while a man’s peaks in his teens.

Myth. While Planned Parenthood says that the sexual prime for males is around age 17, and that females’ sexual prime is around age 30, these ages actually reflect the genitalprime, when sex hormones (testosterone in men; estrogen in women) are highest. But in general, both men’s and women’s sexual performance will peak when they feel most comfortable with themselves and their sexuality. Though this tends to happen between 40 and 60 for both men and women, it can really happen at any age, depending on the person!

2.  Having sex more often can help boost your immune system and prevent illness.

Truth! Researchers at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., found that sex may help strengthen the immune system. According to their study, couples who had sex once or twice a week as compared to couples who had sex less than once a week had 29 percent higher levels of immunoglobulin A, an immune system protein that protects the mouth and upper respiratory tract against cold and flu viruses. Just another reason to get busy with your honey as often as you can!

3.  Older people have less sex and/or less enjoyable sex.

Myth. According to a recent study of 27,000 people conducted across 29 countries, the majority of men and women studied had active sex lives past the age of 40 and well into their eighties! Couples in Western Europe who shared greater equality were more likely to enjoy their sex lives than couples in more male-oriented societies, such as those found in Asia and the Middle East.